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Let’s be honest.

Nobody likes rules.

But the thing is, if you’re serious about home organization, then there are some specific rules you’ll want to follow.

You’ll see how much easier organization will be by taking the following simple steps…

Home Organizing Rule #1:

“Touch it Once!”

This is a form of procrastination and it causes piles because something is being put off until later. It could be a little laziness, but more often it’s due to lack of time.

The thing is, this rule will save you time.

For everything you put off until later, you’re touching it twice when it should be just once. You (or someone you live with) is procrastinating and putting things off until later.

Why?

To save a couple of seconds today, you’re wasting five minutes tomorrow.

For example…

You come home, throw the shirt on the bed because you’re going to hang it up or throw it in the laundry basket later.

Or you shove it on a shelf in the closet and will hang it later.

No good.

This is two steps when it should be one. Common sense? Of course.

But few practice this simple rule of home organizing.

Touch it once. The coffee cup goes in the dishwasher, not on the counter and into the dishwasher later.

The mail coming in the house should be dealt with immediately…not added to a pile where you touch it more than once for no reason at all other than procrastination.

Home Organizing Rule #2:

Keep things together that belong together.

Sweaters with sweaters. Shirts with shirts. One shelf for snacks and a shelf for cans.

Take a look around a fancy clothing store.

They’re designed to help you (the customer) find exactly what you need.

Wouldn’t it be nice to find whatever it is you’re looking for in a matter of seconds?

Same goes for a grocery store. If these shelves weren’t organized, these stores would go broke because nobody would be able to find a thing.

Home Organizing Rule #3 - Organize ONLY one space at a time.

Work on one small space at a time in set increments and try and do it every single day. It might only be for fifteen or twenty minutes, but the key is to get something organized everyday and make it consistent.

If you try and tackle too much at once, you won’t get done because of an already hectic schedule. Incomplete tasks are discouraging and you might just give up.

The smaller the task, the easier to complete

And the better you’ll feel.

Often organizing something as small as a junk drawer or even your wallet can give you the boost in motivation to “step it up” into a bigger project.

If you have to do the junk drawer over a two day period, big deal?

Take two days to do it.

Getting it done is the key.

One small step at a time.

I remember as a child looking at the big houses and shiny, new cars in the street thinking “Wow! Those people are so lucky!”. As I grew up, I observed how much it seemed so normal to separate “us” &ndash the middle class, from “them” &ndash the wealthy. It never really occurred to me as a teenager to question this, but as an adult chasing my big, grandiose dreams, I have found myself eternally perplexed by the self separation that seems to happen amongst humans.

Why do so many people seem to ‘wish’ for the abundance of wealth that life offers, yet never truly believe that it’s in any way possible for them? My question is… Why not? The only way that wealth is ever going to happen is to first believe it is possible. The crazy thing is, it is SO MUCH MORE POSSIBLE than most people ever really know!!

I came from a middle class family, and we often (I mean really often!) struggled with money, but we always kept the dream alive. My father always had an entrepreneurial spirit and started many new business ventures, even though, unfortunately, the financial jackpot always eluded us. We had a better kind of wealth though &ndash love and encouragement. You see, our parents always encouraged my sister and I with strong words like “You can be anything you want to be, if you want it bad enough”.

So now, at 31, I own a multi-million dollar property portfolio, I quit my job several years ago for a life of freedom, I’ve married the man of my dreams, I live abroad and I frequently travel the world. So what’s the difference between me and the other middle class people who didn’t realize their dreams? Only a belief that it was possible.

For instance, I would walk into a store and try on the most expensive pair of shoes I could find, even though I knew I didn’t have the money to buy them. I wanted to be comfortable with that kind of wealth, and I was also very aware of keeping my language, internal and external, positive and aligned with my dreams. Instead of looking at the shoes and immediately saying “I can’t afford those!”, I would say “I choose not to buy them, today”. Being wealthy starts with feeling wealthy. Consider all the people who didn’t feel wealthy and won the lottery… most of them squandered it all away, because even though they really wanted it, they never really felt worthy of having it.

So take the time to reflect on what you’re thinking, feeling and saying (both to yourself and out loud), and decide if it’s aligned with your goals and dreams. If not, consider finding a new approach… and be sure remove the phrase “I can’t afford it” from your vocabulary!

As for me, I’ve still got a long way to go, and I never want to stop growing and striving for more, (does that journey ever stop?), but these days I can see a $40 Million dollar mansion, or 180 ft Super yacht and comfortably say “that’s for me”, and know for sure that it is.

What can a person do to attract more success in their life? What if they want to let go of a habit, chronic pain, fear or phobia, or they want to manage their weight or stop smoking? Any one of these and a host of other issues can either be helped or resolved through the power of the subconscious mind.

The subconscious makes up the majority of the human mind. And since that is where our habits and emotions are, the subconscious is where true change occurs. The best way to communicate with the subconscious mind is through hypnosis, either with a certified hypotherapist or with self-hypnosis. After all, most hypnotherapists would agree that “all hypnosis is self-hypnosis”. This is due to the fact that the individual is always in control.

Self-Hypnosis can be practiced daily, assisting individuals in creating positive change in their life. The steps for self-hypnosis include relaxation and visualization, in addition to using positive thoughts to create the positive change. In fact, the mind is not motivated to make the change when negative words are used such as “lose” weight, or “quit” smoking. It is more beneficial to use positive words such as smoke “free” or “ideal” weight.

Self-hypnosis should be done when a person is alert, and they are able to relax without falling asleep. They begin by taking deep breaths and slowly counting from five to one as they feel themselves relaxing. A positive thought is focused on such as: “I am happy, healthy, and at my ideal weight”, as they imagine themselves in a peaceful place.

After several minutes of repeating the thought, the person will become alert again by counting from one to five and saying to themselves “when I open my eyes, I will feel alert and refreshed”. As a result of practicing self-hypnosis, an individual will not only reduce stress, they will bring about positive change.

Jealousy is a natural human feeling brought on by simply wanting something someone else has. Though it may be perfectly natural to feel this emotion, what many people choose to do fueled by jealousy is where its harm lies. Crimes of passion are almost always jealousy driven, as well as those of theft and vandalism. There is a reason jealousy is one of the seven deadly sins that leads to the more criminal offenses than any other. If you have issues with jealousy, part of your duty as a responsible human being is to constructively deal with the jealous tendencies without doing harm to yourself or other people.

Hypnosis has been sought my many people as a way of easing feelings of jealousy. As a treatment method, hypnosis will open your mind to suggestion and allow you to explore the root causes of your jealousy. On the outside, it may be simple to see what causes the jealousy: seeing your girlfriend talking to an ex-boyfriend, or knowing that your husband is attracted to another woman. However, what hypnosis is able to uncover about your jealousy is that it is truly tied to feelings of insecurity and your own fear of loss. Only after you are able to pinpoint these factors can hypnosis truly begin to easy the jealous feelings that plague you.

Depending on the hypnotherapist that you choose, the sessions will be conducted in different ways to deal with your specific issues. For example, you will probably be instructed to picture those particular people and things that trigger your jealousy. It can be difficult at first to force yourself to confront these scenarios, but confrontation is a key ingredient to using hypnosis to resolve jealousy. The hypnosis exercises will help you associate these people and scenarios with happy emotions and trick your mind into feeling anything but jealous. The hypnotherapist may also give you exercises to do on your own that will teach you to think of happy or funny memories when you see the person or thing that turns your blood green.

Most people that seek hypnosis treatment for their jealousy can feel results even after their first session with a professional. Though it is usually recommended that a series of sessions will be the most beneficial, it does help one feel more confident that hypnosis for resolving jealousy is valid. It is also usually suggested that you meet or chat over the phone with the hypnotist for a consultation before the actual treatment begins. This will allow you to decide if the chemistry is right between the two of you. It may seem silly to think, but if you happen to meet a hypnotherapist that somehow reminds you of someone that brings out the jealousy feelings, it will be difficult to find the treatments effective.

Hypnosis is a mind science and cannot be entered into involuntarily. You must be cooperative and open to the possibility for hypnosis to help resolve your jealous emotions. As with any time you attempt to change something about your mind and character, you have to want to and make a conscious decision to beat the jealousy and allow yourself to become a more confident, centered person. You will find that treating jealousy through hypnosis will improve personal and professional relationships and lead to a future of happiness. For mor info you can visit - .mind-works.co.uk/Hypnotherapy-for-Jealousy.html

One of the easiest things to do when talking to someone is to start exchanging battle stories with them!

It simply begins by telling them about a time in your life when you went through something that you thought was devastating and how it either ruined you or how you overcame it.

Almost before you can complete your story, the other person jumps in and always seems to try to one up you with their own battle story.

Before you know it, you are in a conversation that seems to last forever because both of you are trying to outdo the other one with your stories.

If the truth be told, everyone in this world has a story to tell. Some of these stories end in tragedy and some in triumph. The sad thing is that, whether their tragedy was in the past, or they are currently experiencing a tragedy, they don’t realize that they still have the ability to turn it into a victory.

They are so focused on proving to the world that they have been done wrong, or that they are owed something for what they have gone through, they never realize that the world is slipping by.

Which category do you fall in?

Are you focused on your wounds and scars or have you been able to overcome them and succeed in life?

The other day, someone I know bought a leather couch. There was a tag on it and I found it to be very interesting. The tag said this:

“This product is not faulty or damaged. All the markings, scaring, and discolorations on this product are normal and enhance its natural beauty.”

In your own life, do you have a tag that reads like that or does your tag read more like this:

“This product has been unjustly damaged. All the markings, scaring, and discolorations on this product are the result of it being victimized. This is not normal and in no way enhances its natural beauty.”

I know that you may have had some very terrible things happen to you in your lifetime. But believe it or not, you have the ability to live your life with greatness and victory. You have the choice what your label says about you. You have the choice whether that label is a label of success or defeat.

You see, every scar, every mark, every burn has the potential to help change the lives of the people around you. How many other people have gone through similar circumstances and need someone like you to say to them:

See here, I’ve gone through the same thing. Here is my scar to prove it. I was able to overcome it and now I have greatness and success in my life. If I could do it, so can you.

Remember that greatness never comes easy. If it did, then everyone would reach their full purpose in life.

If you choose to, everything you have ever gone through, and everything that you will go through, has the potential to help you impact the lives of many other people in a positive way.

So what do you want your label to say?

“We create our lives a thought at a time. And sometimes, it comes down to changing a thought such as “Why did this happen to me?” into “There is a divine plan and there is a reason for this, and my choice is to create the most positive reaction I can.” - Dee Wallace Stone

You know that positive thinking and positive action attracts positive things. But you also know that it is not possible to stay motivated and positive all the time.

You constantly need to check your thoughts as busy activities make you forget your dreams and goals at times. In other words, live a motivated life and you will feel that your life has improved.

Here are some ideas to increase your motivation and thereby improve your life:

1. Get Close To Positive Energy

Stay away from all forms of negativity. Avoid the cynics, pessimists, whiners and complain kings and queens. They will not support your goals and desires. They will drain your energy and stifle your dreams.

Associate yourself with positive and happy people. Their enthusiasm for life is contagious. Positive and optimistic people will uplift your spirits and help you through challenging times. Also draw inspiration from Mentors and Motivation Gurus.

2. Never Give Up

Don’t ever give up. We will not fail if we keep trying. Work hard at what you want to achieve and never let negative thoughts cloud your mind. Have faith in yourself. During difficult times, you will find ways to keep your spirits up and keep moving forward. Remember, if you think positively, you will get positive results. And if you think negatively, you will get negative results.

3. Reflect On Success

There are going to be some days that will take every will power to feel motivated and move forward. What can you do? Reflect on what is happening in your life and what you can learn from it. Look back on how far you’ve come. Think of past accomplishments that make you feel good and proud of. List down all your achievements, both personal and professional, and know your worth. Don’t forget the little achievements too. These are proofs that you have made good use of your time and energy.

4. Don’t Wait, Do It Now

While it’s important to work within your plan, don’t wait for everything to be perfect before you make that move. Don’t be in limbo, waiting for perfection that will never be. If you’re waiting for a shining moment of excitement, it isn’t going to happen. Stop waiting for it.

Work within your plan and take that first step. Frustration sets in when you make all the plans you want, make lists, detail every step, but take no action. You have to MAKE it happen. Take action and repeat the action process again tomorrow.

5. Take Time To Relax Too

It is critical to take time off. We need rest and relaxation every now and then. Rest, by itself, is a great motivator. We are so busy that we can forget to relax and recharge. Even a weekend away from work, studying or watching kids can be good. You need to recharge those “batteries”, refresh your attitude, and renew your commitment to yourself. Without sufficient rest and relaxation, you will burn out fast. Taking time off from work is essential to your mental, physical, and emotional health.

To live the life you want to live, action is required. Take these simple ideas to create and improve the life you have always wanted. Start Today.

According to Work Life Today, flexibility and overwork are two of the major workforce issues of 2006. With over 33 percent of employees feeling overworked, employees need to find ways to ease the burden on their workers without allowing the costs to skyrocket.

Adding work to already overloaded employees is expected to worsen, since it is expected that the workforce is likely to decrease. The added burden of work on employees can cause problems in the balance of life and work for staff members, as they feel more overloaded with work. Also, with the new trends of employees paying for health insurance and having to dress more formally becoming more prominent, employers will have to find other ways to address the issue of balancing work and life for staff members that shoulder the burden of extra work.

Knowing why employees feel overworked is the first step in finding inexpensive ways to address the issue. Many managers misunderstand what overwork means to their staff. Even though Expedia.com reports that 63 percent of workers work more than 40 hours per week, being overworked is not just about the number of hours the person spends at the office. Most often, employees feel overworked due to having too much work to do in a given day or having too many menial versus challenging tasks. The employee that feels overworked can be costly to an employer, because people who are overworked tend to make more mistakes and harbor anger and resentment toward management and co-workers. People who feel overworked can sometimes lose track of important tasks, which then mean missed deadlines and lost clients.

Many of the issues associated with overwork come from finding a way to balance the burden of work with the things people need for everyday living. Today managers are being viewed as the gatekeepers to work/life balance, since many people continue to feel overwhelmed by the load of work in both their professional and personal lives. With over 26 percent of employees refraining from taking vacation or sick days because they worry about the amount of work that will be piled in their inboxes when they return, it is no longer just about the benefits like insurance or vacation time that appeal to the employee. Potential new hires and current employees want to know that the company cares about them as people, not as a worker-bee. This means that employers need to be more creative in how they approach the feeling of overwork so that employees are more productive and satisfied in both their professional and personal lives.

So what are some ways that employers can fulfill this new role of Gatekeeper? While some companies are offering incentives for people to take vacations, many companies are turning to trainings and personal concierge services to assist their employees to feel less overworked. For instance, one company decided that they wanted staff members to begin dressing more professionally. So they offered people trainings on how to put together professional outfits. Another company offered a company that would assist people in shopping for professional clothing. Trainings can also help people learn how to manage their time better, how to use a wardrobe for success, and even how to succeed in upward mobility.

However, the most recent, and low-cost, trend has companies using a corporate concierge service that will take care of the little things so that the employees focus will be on the big things. For some people, taking care of the grocery shopping, clothing purchases, birthday presents, and more can allow their focus to be directed at work. People have found that they can focus more on their work when someone else is taking care of picking up the dry cleaning or getting their oil changed.

According to BusinessKnowHow.com, overwork is one of the top reasons why many people get frustrated and leave their jobs. Whether you are looking to retain the employees you have or you are looking to attract quality new hires, one of the issues you will need to address is overwork. When employees see that you are trying to meet their needs and make their overall lives better, you will find that production will increase and an overall sense of well being will fill your office. Using trainings, incentives, and personal concierge services can bring about the best in your staff without costing you a fortune.

Why do some people blush more easily than others? Blushing is a physical response that is triggered by an emotional response to one or more self conscious thoughts. Everyone has self conscious thoughts from time to time, but such thoughts do not trigger blushing in everyone.

Most people blush at one time or other. People generally have a tendency to blush in response to shameful thoughts or actions. Blushing is a normal physical response to an embarrassing behaviour or thought. People who exhibit problem blushing, however, tend to blush in reaction to many additional types of situations.

People who tend to blush excessively have a tendency to be very sensitive to the opinions and reactions of other people. They tie their self esteem to how they are perceived by other people, and they are very susceptible to external criticism and attention. The emotional response that triggers blushing in such individuals is often tied to a fear of being judged, be it positively or negatively, by others.

Such a marked concern for the perceptions of others may be a genetic personality pre-disposition. While many people naturally have little or no concern for how they are seen by other people, many people at the opposite end of the spectrum are overly sensitive to the perceptions of other people. Most people lie somewhere between these two extremes, but those with blushing problems seem to be particularly affected by how other people view them.

Any time that another person is likely to form a judgment of them, good or bad, problem blushers are likely to turn pink. Problem blushers often experience blushing in reaction to finding themselves in a situation where attention is drawn to them. Just being the focus of attention, which makes problem blushers vulnerable to being judged by others, is enough to trigger an episode of blushing. The very idea that another person may be thinking about them can cause a problem blusher to blush.

Unfortunately, there is not a drug or other medical treatment that can stop problem blushers from caring about how they are perceived by other people. The best way to reduce blushing problems is to make a concerted effort to change the way you think and feel about being judged by other people. Since blushing is brought on by a mental trigger, to reduce the occurrence of blushing it is necessary to look for ways to turn off that trigger. While it is difficult just to decide that you don’t care what other people think about you, reducing your sensitivity to the judgments of others is truly the best way to get problem blushing under control.

When smoking your body and brain get used to receiving nicotine and they become addicted. The problem when quitting is that although you want to stop smoking your organism will continue to ask for nicotine. Then it’s when the withdrawal symptoms set in, causing cravings. This is the reason why quitting is so hard for the most of us.

Fortunately for us, today there are all sort of treatments for the smokers who want to quit. One of the most used methods at the moment is the quit smoking patch.

What is a Quit Smoking Patch

The quit smoking patch is a small, self-adhesive patch that is used when wanting to stop smoking. It is a form of therapeutic nicotine that you have to stick it to your skin in order for it to work. When attached to the skin nicotine will enter your bloodstream at a constant rate, during a period of 24 hours. The quit smoking patch works as an aid that is meant to help you quit smoking by reducing nicotine craving symptoms, until you are completely cured and don’t need to smoke anymore.

The quit smoking patch comes in different strengths and sizes. When you start the quitting process it is usually best to first start with the strongest patch and then slowly go from one to another, until you get to the weakest one available. And after a while you will completely stop to use any kind of quit smoking patch. Then the process will end.

Advantages and Disadvantages of using the Quit Smoking Patch

The advantages of using the quit smoking patch, or the nicotine patch as it is sometimes called, is that it provides your body and brain with a constant supply of nicotine, without you having to think about it all the time. This way it also helps you slowly forget about the smoking habit, because you won’t feel the need to do it any more.

The disadvantages of using the quit smoking patch is that they can provoke different irritations to the skin and they are pretty expensive, although if you consider the money that you would spend on cigars they don’t look so expensive anymore. It is also believed that the quit smoking patch causes the person wearing it to have strange dreams if it goes to bed with the patch on. Unfortunately if you don’t wear it during sleep, the next day when you wake up you will probably feel the need to smoke or you would feel agitated, and it would take some time before the new patch will start working.

But the biggest disadvantage that the quit smoking patch has is that if you smoke while having it put on or just shortly after removing it, you could suffer nicotine overdose, which can even lead to death. That is why you should be very careful when using the quit smoking patch.

Are you aware of your inner voice? Do you pay attention to it? I’m not talking about the one who puts you down by the way! I’m talking about the one that softly whispers ideas and suggestions to you &ndash the kind that the other voice might shout down, crying “Are you mad? That requires stepping out of our comfort zone, and that is to be avoided at all costs!” (even if the cost is living a life of mediocrity instead of the one of your dreams)

Sadly, the latter voice is the one most of us are aware of and pay attention to. The more gentle one, that is our intuition, is often ignored &ndash that is if we’re hearing what it tells us at all. The great pity here is that it’s our intuition that really has our best interests at heart. Our gremlin (the louder, more aggressive voice) does have our welfare at heart too, but in a protective way. The intuition’s way is more expansive.

What’s wrong with protecting us? I do hear you thinking that! Well, it limits us and ultimately erodes our well being at a soul level. And believe it or not, but that’s not good for our physical or emotional well being! If you’re unfulfilled at a soul level, slowly and imperceptibly you will develop a nagging feeling of general discontent which can have a rippling effect on your mood, self esteem and ultimately your physical and mental health. But that’s for another article ;o)

The gentle voice of your intuition will, if listened to, stretch you beyond your comfort zone, but never more than you’re capable of. It will challenge you, but also support you. It always has your best interests at heart at every level &ndash physically, mentally, emotionally, spiritually. It will not only gently nudge you in scary directions which will yield huge and unimaginable rewards, but it will also gently warn when to stop or turn around.

When you tune into your intuition and allow yourself to be guided by it you will be surprised at how much easier formerly assumed “challenges” will become. And how much good fortune lands in your lap (we call it synchronicity). And how good you feel &ndash at ease with yourself and all your life experiences, even the ones you wouldn’t choose!

If you’re not used to listening to your intuition, learning to tune into it will require time and patience. At first, you may be unsure which voice is which (especially as your gremlin often sounds very reasonable), and using your intuition is very much like using your physical muscles. You need to use it regularly in order for it to be in the shape you want.

So how do you get to know your intuition better? First of all, start to watch out for hunches, feelings, ideas that crop up. Pay attention to the voice that accompanies it. Is it gentle, positive, supportive? If it’s aggressive, domineering, or using scare- mongering tactics it’s more likely to be your gremlin. If you’re getting a feeling of warning, is it a loud and threatening one (gremlin) or an insistent “knowing” one (intuition).

The scary thing about trusting your intuition when it’s new to you, is that it’s not based on logic and often what it suggests to you cannot be justified logically. But with practice and trust, you’ll learn that the “knowing” that something is the right thing to do is in your best interests. It’ll be easier to shrug off your own gremlin and that of others (who will fear for your best interests on your behalf).

The key to developing the all essential trust is to start small. Don’t make life-changing decisions based on your intuition if you’re not familiar with it (you might still be confusing your two inner voices). Do ask your intuition to guide you with smaller decisions, and wait for the gentle knowing feeling to arrive. Don’t expect an instant answer, but watch out for it &ndash it will come, and you’ll know it when it does.

Over time, as you tune in more and more, you’ll find you suffer less and less with worry or anxiety. You’ll trust all will work out well, and often you’ll find it works out better than you could ever have imagined! :o)