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I’ve had many ‘aha’ and self-congratulatory moments through coaching myself using self development workbooks. I refer to this as ‘Self-Coaching’.

Self-Coaching yourself in this way is great if you’re:

1. Shy;

2. Too busy for one-on-one coaching;

3. Someone who doesn’t like to go out much;

4. Trying to keep limiting beliefs to yourself;

5. Not ready to be coached by anyone else; and

6. Working on your own personal development without anyone else knowing &ndash that way no-one will be disappointed if you give it up or mess it up.

However to get the most out of this form of coaching you’ll need to be:

1. Committed to creating the change you want;

2. Disciplined;

3. Willing to do whatever it takes to develop yourself, eg spiritual development courses, up-skilling, coaching etc;

4. Aware of when you need outside help.

Please Note: From experience, self-coaching will not be enough if there are deeper issues needing to be resolved; and

5. The driver behind the wheel of change &ndash it’s your life; you’re in charge of your destiny.

Self-coaching can help (depending on the severity of the issue) find strategies to apply to:

1. A relationship break-up or make-up;

2. Work related issues;

3. Indecision - something you’ve always dreamed of doing is forever being pushed aside and you need to make a decision;

4. House move &ndash do I stay or do I leave?

5. Itchy feet and wanting to explore and experience a new lifestyle; and

6. Money problems.

A powerful step towards changing what you no longer want into something you really want is by remembering and experiencing what you’d like to change. Then, as you close the door of the past behind you, aim for and take action to making it happen.

Start by goal-setting the what, why, how of transformation, and when you want it to happen by.

A few more tips if you’re coaching yourself are:

1. Keep a diary or journal and write in it every day of how you worked towards achieving inner change. You’ll be able to look back and reflect upon your journey, how you did it, the frustrations, obstacles, and triumphs. It will also give you a sense of achievement, after all you did it.

2. Become aware of how you do things and ask yourself “if you could do this in a better way, how would you do it?”

3. As you coach yourself, at the end of every week summarise what you’ve written and determine what changes you can make easily for the following week.

4. Learn to meditate to give you inner peace as well as clarity not only whilst working with your situation but also to give yourself another self-help tool for your ‘life skill toolkit’.

5. Take up a spiritual development course and increase your intuition. People use their intuition practically every day without realising it, increasing your intuition can help in all areas of your life.

6. Inform everyone who needs to know that you’ll be offline for however long your self coaching sessions will be. Once you’ve organised your time, be ruthless and stick to your timetable. Failing to do this will result in a nasty thing called procrastination to hold you captive!

7. Make a special note of any limiting beliefs you discover about yourself. For example, maybe you have a hang up around earning an income, or maybe you’re not as confident as you like to believe you are. In this case if you are unable to find solutions to these beliefs it’s time to call upon the services of a transformational coach or other professional (this applies to anything you’re unable to effectively work through).

The success of any ‘Self-Coaching’ program is dependent on two things:

1. Your level of commitment; and

2. The quality and content of the workbook itself. It must be designed and developed by someone with coaching experience, an understanding of adult learning principles and the ability to encapsulate it all in ‘simple speak’.

Self-coaching has been an excellent ‘self-help’ tool for me over the years and may help you in some way too.

Michaela Scherr Transformational Coach

Jealousy is a kind of feeling, which develops when a person believes that his/her valued relationship is threatened by some kind of insecurity. It mainly comes because of the insecurity of the jealous person. The causes of jealousy are more mental than physical. The feeling of jealousy is also considered to be a negative emotion and there are mainly two causes, which lead to jealousy. The first cause of jealousy can be attributed to the insecurity problem, which is mostly seen in such cases. This mainly happens when you are too sensitive by nature and often feel unsecured about the future.

Often it is seen that marital relations come to an end because of this particular feeling of jealousy. Communication is the root cause of jealousy in marital life. You should sort things out with your partner before things worsen to the core. You need to sit and discuss issues with your partner rather than assume things in worst possible way. However there’s times when you may not even know why jealousy is a part of your life or you’re actually emoting jealousy so often. In fact the situation could be such that you don’t even realize that you are so jealous.

Whether through self-realization or with the help of outside help you begin to pay attention to your jealous traits, it’s time you do something about it. Because in due course of time this will worsen your relationship with many loved ones around you. Don’t let your insecurities bring about your end.

Overcoming jealousy is no longer so difficult. It’s a pathological or mental condition that can go a long way in bringing about great disturbance in your physical well being. Help yourself today. If you think it’s a problem that will just resolve itself, no it wont. You need to be able to get out of the jealous trip and Hypnosis will be just right for you. Yes hypnosis, if you thought it was just a concept that you watched in movies and that the crystal maze was just for the heck of it, well it’s time you think again. Hypnosis is a contemporary treatment option but has been around from the early days. It was always used as a parallel source of treatment in varied societies.

Uncover the power of hypnosis in overcoming jealousy. Download your version and get started right away the benefits are many and you’ll learn along the way. The best thing being you don’t have to spend time going for sessions and trying to schedule your treatment into your busy life. You can begin your betterment right at home. This will help you regain confidence and better your relationship with those around you, especially siblings and loved ones.

Of course, deciding to face your jealousy head on can be a very daunting experience, however it is not as daunting as not doing anything about it and effectively choosing to spend every day with it for the rest of your life!

How you see yourself upon the inside, i.e. yourself image, will affect your self-esteem of the degree that this self-image differs from your ideals. The way in which you image yourself involves thinking and believing and is sometimes termed the self concept.

Exactly how you communicate to your nervous system how you would look, how you would feel, the kind of self talk that will go on between your ears, doing this with consistent vivid detail, and you’ll find that your self-esteem raises with or without your desire for higher self-esteem. That means you also get the advantages.

Here is a very simple way to raise your self-esteem effectively: using the power of affirmations. You can do this verbally and you can also use a mirror to make it more effective. You can even use a pen and paper to do affirmations in writing and you can also use more than just the “I” pronoun, i.e. you can also use “(s)he” and “you” whilst saying affirmations.

“I am getting more and more healthy”

“He is getting more and more healthy”

“You are getting more and more healthy”

The author Brian Tracy cites that one particular affirmation is especially effective in raising self-esteem and also another one of the same authors affirmations will also be used as an example. These will be discussed below.

If you use a multitude of repetitions when saying your self-esteem affirmations and you attach strong feeling to the affirmations, they will have a more profound effect in allowing you to produce excellent results in your life quickly

Speaking your affirmations or recording them onto a tape and then listening to them throughout the day, or doing affirmations in writing will allow you to program your unconscious so that you end up with a new revised self concept — that is to say you refresh the things that you believe about you by consciously choosing new, positive, empowering beliefs.

It is not a pre-requisite that you strongly believe that using self esteem affirmations is going to have benefits for you. But if you have the willpower to carry on saying your affirmations even if it’s just for one single time, to the extent that you press on further than the plateau of time where you stop wanting to say your affirmations, because it gets uncomfortable invariably — you are challenging your beliefs after all — then this is the way to get fast, effective and powerful results. Just keep on and on at your unconscious and eventually you are guaranteed to get it.

An example of this is if you are using the affirmation “I am joyous” in order to give yourself a lift in the amount of joy that you are experiencing, or simply to become more available to the feeling of joy. And for this example, you would continually say as you’re affirmation, “I am joyous” over and over, like a mantra.

You can say your affirmations anywhere you like, even when driving a car, unless for example you’re using the affirmation, “relax…get comfortable…close your eyes and go to sleep” to cure your insomnia. Here’s a tip that can make you affirmations even more effective. I learned this from a very successful stock market investor. Say your affirmations to yourself using a piece of reflective glass — i.e. a mirror. Look deeply into your own eyes and say your affirmations with utmost sincerity.

Try this and you will be surprised at the speed at which you begin to get results with affirmations. The onus is on you remember, when you start tell yourself it’s not working, to push on through and reach the breakthrough part. Getting past this skepticism that we all have at first is a challenge. But, if you’ve got this far in this article, I know you’re the kind of person who’s got the commitment level to do this and do it well.

I found when using affirmations, I get the same sort of pleasure chemical release that I also get after a 30 minute or one hour job. My body seems to reward me with endorphins when I carry on saying my affirmations right through to the time where I’m going to break through no matter what. In fact the last part of that sentence is a good affirmation. “I’m going to breakthrough no matter what.” that one will bring up courage, persistence and determination. But let’s not get sidetracked from self-esteem. What are the number one and number two affirmations for raising self-esteem?

As depression has the ability to affect our lives badly, there should be early warning symptoms that can indicate whether we do have some form of depression disorder. We need to be able to differentiate between normal depression which passes in a few days to depression disorders which last for sometimes months or years on end. There are a number of depression test sites that you can investigate on the internet.

While these tests can indicate if you are suffering from depression, they can’t replace proper medical diagnosing. As these depression tests are conducted online, the level of information regarding your possibility of depression will be gleaned from the answers that you will be providing. Also your emotional and mental states during what might be a depression attack will not be evaluated. Therefore you must remember that any depression test can only help you, they can’t provide the necessary medical aid that you may need.

In order for the depression test to work properly you should read the question and click an answer that best indicates your feelings and emotional state for the past few days. You should have an answer for each of the questions that are asked. Any question on the test that you are unable to answer, because you are not quite sure of what to indicate, needs to be guessed at.

The questions that will be asked are aimed at your emotional state, your mental condition and your physical fitness level. An example of what sort of question that you might be asked is - I get very frightened or panicky feeling for no good reason at all. For all of the questions on the depression test there are four possible responses that you can choose from on the questionnaire. They are &ndash No, not at all; No, not much; Yes, sometimes; and Yes, definitely.

Once you have completed the depression test you will need to click the Calculate Score button that is located at the bottom of the test. When the score has been tallied, you will be informed whether you have the potential for depression or not. Should the results of the test is not acceptable to you, you can click the reset button to take the test again.

Even though your depression test may confirm if you are suffering from depression you should seek medical aid and advice as soon as possible. The reason is that a correct diagnoses needs to be made so that the right treatment, medications and therapy can be administered to you. Taking a depression test therefore is only the first step towards curing your depression once and for all.

It is a vicious cycle because tinnitus causes stress and anxiety and is also worsened by stress and anxiety. Worrying over the tinnitus can cause it to become worse. Lack of sleep due to ringing in the ears leads to fatigue which makes the ear ringing worse. These are just some of the mental and emotional side effects of tinnitus.

Expel tinnitus and the roller coaster of emotions:

At times it may be more annoying for people who do not know what is wrong with them or who have non-supportive doctors that tell them to “get over it” or to find a way to live with tinnitus.

It is a vicious cycle because tinnitus causes stress and anxiety and is also worsened by stress and anxiety. Worrying over the tinnitus can cause it to become worse. Lack of sleep due to ringing in the ears leads to fatigue which makes the ear ringing worse. These are just some of the mental and emotional side effects of tinnitus.

Many people with a hissing in the ears, like me, will discover that it completely interferes with natural essential functions of their lives. You may have a hard time concentrating, remembering things, listening to others and focusing on tasks. This makes it nearly impossible to function properly on a job or in society.

Many people with tinnitus go through the same process as people with other medical conditions and disorders. At first you may feel denial, then anger and frustration (especially if you are being told there is no cure and nothing will help) and then you may feel hopeless and depressed. You will think why this had to happen to you and harp on the fact that your life will never be the same. Next comes fear.

You may worry that you will never live a normal life again, fear that this ringing in the ears will cause havoc with your job and your family, fear that you will never be able to enjoy the same things and fear that you are going crazy or that there is something mentally “wrong” with you. At some point along the way if you hope to find relief, you will need to find acceptance.

Acceptance- With acceptance comes the realization that while you do have this condition and there is no cure for ear ringing, that doesn’t mean you have to be a victim for the rest of your life.

You will soon come to the realization that there is hope for your tinnitus and that you have stopped focusing on the ear ringing all the time you can allow your body to start the recovery. Also one should also take note of the fact that this roller coaster of emotions does not only effect the tinnitus sufferer but their families as well.

Maybe this has happened to you:

Take two identical days, just ordinary routine days, nothing special happening…

On one of the days, you wake up in morning feeling great &ndash it’s a beautiful sunny day, you can hear your favourite sounds, you’ve got a great mental attitude, positive that everything is going to be easy:-)

Your journey to work is easy, you fly through your work and to cap it all, you have a fantastic evening at home. In short you have a great day!

On the other day you wake up after a bad night’s sleep, you’re not feeling great, it’s grey and cloudy, everything you hear just sounds discordant and ugly. You’ve got a negative attitude and going through your day things just go downhill from there…

Getting to work is a nightmare, you spend your entire day in seemingly endless and repetitive tasks and by the end of the day you’re just happy to collapse into bed feeling exhausted.

So what is the difference between these two days?

There’s just one difference YOU!!

The Mirror Of Life

Life is like a mirror.

On one side there is your mental state, your attitude, positive or negative, your feelings.

On the other side there is the reflection of your mental state: your external world and the results you are achieving in that world

That’s right. Your world is reflection of your mental state.

…But how does this happen, how can your internal world create your external world?

Think about it for a minute.

First your mental state influences your behaviour and your actions &ndash when you have a good attitude, positive actions are easy to take, when you have a negative attitude, everything seems too difficult!

Your behaviour and actions influence people around you and the results you get in life &ndash if you are always negative and pessimistic you are going to find that most of the people you attract into your life are like you. If a negative attitude means that you don’t ‘get things done’ you are not going to create the life you really want.

The results you get and the people you associate with influence what you perceive in your world…

…and your perceptions influence your mental state, completing the circle.

The only things you can control are how you perceive the world and your mental state. For example you can choose to see the negative or the positive in a situation by changing your state of mind.

Experience The Mirror In Action

You can experience the power of the mirror of life at any time. Here’s a couple of examples to think about:

Start by thinking about people around you…

You can tell a lot about a person’s inner world by looking at their outer world. Of course people may try to hide their mental state, but there are always clues… look at their car, their house, the way they dress, their behaviour…

Or one day in your normal routine, consciously adopt an extremely positive attitude, make a point of smiling and greeting people positively when you might normally be neutral or even grumpy!

Just see what difference it makes. You will see that people’s responses to you become more positive and friendly. Even better, if you keep it up you will find that your are living in a different, more positive and more supportive world.

The message is clear: you can change your world by changing your mental state.

If you want better results, you’ve first got to create a better you!

This is the time of year when many goal setting gurus being to talk about reflecting on your goals for the past year and looking ahead to the new goals you will create for the coming year. I recognize the huge importance of having goals but I also think it is useless to talk about goal setting without an even stronger focus on goal attainment.

Anyone whose ever celebrate the New Year has set a goal but what takes goal setting to the next level? I’d like to share with you my seven-step system for actually reaching and attaining your goals. Are you ready?

Step 1: Begin at the End:

Many experts in goal setting will tell you that you must begin at the end. Imagine yourself and all you want to accomplish in the future. That way you can develop the roadmap of just how to get there.

After all, you wouldn’t get on a plane without knowing its destination, would you? Then why would you live your life that way? Decide right now, to the best of your ability where you want to end up when it’s all over.

Stephen Covey in The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People says his second habit is: “Begin with the End in Mind.” He suggests that you imagine your own funeral and just what you want family, friends and community members to say about you, your character and your accomplishments. That way you will be able to plan step-by-step what exactly you will need to do to get there.

What is your purpose? What are your unique skills, talents and abilities that help you to contribute to humankind? If you aren’t sure, take some time to daydream about it. Keep trying new things until you find something you love and at which you excel.

Step 2: Balance is the Key:

Many times when you think of setting goals, you focus on the area of professional objectives. While this is a very important part of your goal setting strategy, it shouldn’t be your only center of attention. You are so much more than what you do at work, aren’t you?

Think about it. At the end of your life, do you think you will be looking back regretting that you didn’t work harder? Probably not. So, when you have a goal setting strategy session, you must look at all the important areas of your life. When I do my goal sessions, I look at work, love, play and spirituality.

There are many systems out there that divide our lives into different focal areas. I don’t favor one over any others. My advice is that you find one that works for you and set goals in each of those areas.

Step 3: Take Stock: Where are you now? What are your strengths?

What would you have to give up?

As important as knowing where you are going is knowing where you are right now. It’s impossible to get good directions anywhere unless the person giving directions knows where you are starting from.

Take the time to scrutinize the reality of your life. Where do you stand in each of the areas you identified in Step 2? This is not a time to be overly critical or overly optimistic. Just take an honest look at your current situation.

Then make an assessment of your strengths. Enumerating your strengths can be very helpful in setting future goals. Sometimes it’s your strengths that will make goal attainment possible.

Finally, I ask you to answer the question, “What would you have to give up to be successful with this particular goal?” When you have your answer, you must then assess if it will be worth it. Many times we don’t move forward toward our goals because of fears that remain just out of our conscious awareness. We must bring them to the forefront where they can be confronted and managed.

Step 4&ndashWork Backwards/Time Management:

Once you know what you are striving for and where you are, then you plot out the course to get you there. You can have 10-year, 5-year, 3-year, 1-year, 3-month, 1-month, 1-week and daily goals. I generally review my big picture goals quarterly and set my shorter goals according.

While doing some positive goal setting, it is important to attend to time management issues. These things will not happen unless you prioritize and protect your time to do the things that you have identified as important.

Step 5: Affirmations/Visualizations/Meditations:

This is not just some new age hog wash. There has been extensive brain research that backs up the use of affirmations, visualizations and meditation.

If you are serious about accomplishing your goals you must write them down. Back in 1953, a Harvard University study showed that 3% of the students graduating that year actually wrote down their specific career goals. Twenty years later, a team of researchers interviewed the class of 1953, and found that the 3% who had written down their goals were worth more financially than the other 97% combined. (Make no mistake, writing down goals pays off, big time!)

An affirmation is simply writing your goal as if it were already true in the present moment. You then say these affirmations daily, at least once but more if possible. Be very clear about what you are trying to accomplish.

A visualization is just like a mental rehearsal. In your mind’s eye, you imagine what life would be like if you had the goal accomplished. The more vivid and sensory-based you can make your visualization, the more effective it will be.

Meditation is a quiet time you take to get in touch with your inner self or your higher power. It is a time of deep reflection where you may ask questions and seek answers from a place or entity that has the answers.

Step 6: Positive Attitude:

There is a Universal Law of Attraction that says we attract into our lives that which we focus on. If we are focused on what we don’t have, then we will bring more lack into our lives. If we are constantly complaining about our bad luck, then that is what we can expect.

When working in harmony with our true selves, it is important to maintain an attitude of gratitude. Even when things don’t go as you planned, you can always be grateful for the lessons learned along the way.

Step 7: Continuous Improvement/Staying Motivated:

This may be the difference between goal setting and goal attainment. The first part is never being satisfied that you have arrived. There is always something more that you can do, another improvement that you can make. Life is a continuous journey.

Staying motivated is a challenge. Sometimes meeting our goals will motivate us; sometimes it has the opposite effect. I find having an accountability partner, a coach or a mastermind group to whom I am accountable makes all the difference. I can promise myself I’m going to do something all day long. If I don’t, who will be the wiser? However, when I say out loud to someone else what my intentions are, then my integrity won’t let me fail.

Stop goal setting and start goal attaining. 2007 can be your year!

Over the years, I’ve tried it all, different ways to get organized, with much trial and error. Some worked, some didn’t. I tried some of those fancy looking matching desk sets. They looked beautiful and for some, I’m sure they are perfect. But for me, they took up too much valuable space. Space I needed to proof my work, keep my reference books, or keep those essentials that I use on a regular basis. For me, when I work I want everything within an arms reach. I want to have immediate access to the tools I need to complete my assignments.

I have a corner desk, and on it I have my computer, printer, fax, phone, etc. Beside my desk I have a two-drawer filing cabinet. This was possibly the greatest thing I’ve ever done to organize my business. In it I have my files and supplies that I use on a regular basis, such as, client stationery, client files, a file for my receipts, all personal correspondence, paper, folders, etc. Whenever these files get bulky with client documents, I simply empty them into the main filing cabinet. For example, my main clients, whom I’ve been working with for 20 years, their files in the main cabinet are quite large. It’s nice to have the smaller file close by with just their recent correspondence. Plus, when I need a folder, an order slip for my books, a copy of my stationery, it’s all right there. AAAHHH, now that’s convenience.

Now for the receipts’ file. I keep it monthly. At the beginning of the month, I simply replace the file with the new month’s file. That way, at tax time, I don’t have to go through a whole year’s receipts and divide it up. It’s already separated.

Here are some other organizational tips you might find beneficial:

Mail&ndashWe have a round basket by a small table by the front door. All incoming mail goes in there first. Then when I have the opportunity to sort through it, I get it and put it in its appropriate place. Always pitch anything you aren’t keeping. All business-related mail is sorted and put away immediately. Anything that might need work done on it is logged into my Daytimer and then put in the To Do Bin.

Desk&ndashYour desk should have on it only those items that you use on a regular basis. Look around. What haven’t you used in the last month or two? Start dumping. Find another spot for it. But find the RIGHT spot for it.

No Piling of Anything Allowed. This is one of those habits that can be so easy to get into. Definitely one that I catch myself doing a lot! But I stop myself now because I know it will just be brushed off to the side and forgotten. Too often I miss something important and regret the piling blunder again. You will be amazed how much more organized you will feel if you just don’t do this one thing. And time yourself. You think you are too busy, but it takes seconds and how long does it take to look for that missing document.

Daytimer&ndashNow this isn’t only for Time Management. Your Daytimer can have a space for all your business cards, appointment cards, etc. How great it is to have all these cards right in the same place. On the date of your appointment, you simply grab the card and off you go. Also, recently I’ve started using the Outlook Express to log in appointments as well. It has a calendar and I can look to it to get a feel for the day and the week to follow.

Three-ring Binders &ndash I saved my best for last. I do a lot of research in doing publicity for clients and also have a lot of e-mails that I need to print and save. I use paper that already has the wholes punched for insertion into a 3 ring binder. I will print out important research, client e-mails I need to save, work that I’ve done so I can review it later, etc., on this paper and then put it into the proper binders. I have a binder for all clients, research, PR, myself, and miscellaneous. You would be amazed how clearer things are in a binder than tossed in a file cabinet. For my business it works tremendously.

Start the beginning of the day and the end of the day with a clean-up. What a tremendous feeling that is. When you are done with a project, away it goes. When you start the next project, out comes all the material you need.

There’s nothing like the feeling of sitting down in the morning to a nice clean organized desk and office. Once you feel this a couple of days, you want to experience this every day so you’ll take the appropriate steps to make it happen.

This is a time of year when many people take stock of all that they are grateful for — or at least when we should do so. But this should also be a time when we take stock of all those people who contributed to those gifts — especially the intangible ones. Those gifts such as our self-esteem or confidence, our love of sports or music, and our spine. What person or group do you owe the greatest debt? Was there a special person or group that really helped you become the person you are today?

Was there someone who helped you believe in yourself and your ability? Was there someone who taught you to appreciate life in a new way? Was there just someone who was there so you could count on them no matter what?

Most of us have been fortunate to have not just one person but a whole team of teachers, coaches, and mentors who helped us grow and reach our potential. We should remember to thank those people again and again as we live the lives they helped us shape. Even more important we need to repay that debt — not to those individuals but to society. How is your debt? Have you paid it yet or are you still pretending it doesn’t exist?

We often hear the expression as it relates to criminals. It is sometimes used as a euphemism for incarceration. The truth is though that we all owe a debt to society. Not because we have done some harm to the community but instead because we have benefited from someone else doing good.

I am a Presbyterian and our expression of the Lord’s Prayer includes the phrase “And forgive us our debts as we forgive our debtors”. Obviously no matter how good we are and how exemplary our lives we can never repay our debt to God or his son so that part of the meaning is rather clear. I also think this means that we should do good for goodness sake rather than any potential benefit we may reap from the act.

I also think there is another level of meaning and this comes back to the central idea of our debt to society. I think when it comes down to acts of kindness there cannot be a one-to-one relationship. Obviously in many cases when a person is in need of help they may never be in a position to return that help in kind. But it isn’t really what we want or need when we offer help or kindness in any case.

Whenever I do something charitable, helpful, or kind, I tend to view the act as contributing to a vast fund of kindness. Many times in my life I have profited from this fund and very likely I will continue to profit from it.

One of the reasons I like this concept is that I do think of it as a sort of fund or bank. The value grows exponentially rather than incrementally just as money would do if similarly invested. We should all be grateful for this because the truth is that we usually don’t pay our debt to society.

Most of us will write the occasional check, buy a ticket for some raffle, and/or spend a few hours working here and there on some pet project. There are a few who will go much further than this and spend a large portion of their time, energy, and/or money for the greater good but they are far too few.

Often whenever we face pressure on our time or finances then it is our philanthropic activities that are the first to be sacrificed. I have been all too guilty of this myself. I wonder what would happen if we reversed this and instead put helping others first rather than last?

My challenge to you this week is simply to find a way to add to our goodness fund. Borrow from the concept of “Pay It Forward”. When someone offers you a helping hand then be sure to pass the favor along at the first opportunity. Don’t pick and choose. Don’t balance your checkbook first. Don’t take the easy path. Do what is right. You will know it when you see it.

The law of attraction is an ancient law that has recently been brought to light through Esther Hicks. Esther Hicks channels spirits that collectively use the name &ndash “Abraham.”

According to the law of attraction “that which is like unto itself is drawn.” In simpler terms this can be expressed as like attracts like. It could also be said as - as you sow, so shall you reap; what goes around comes around; what your put out you get back and what you want, wants you.

Many successful people have lived by the positive philosophy of the law of attraction including, by self admission, Oprah Winfrey. The secret that is said to have once been known by Beethoven is now common knowledge thanks to the works of Esther Hicks and her husband Jerry Hicks.

The statement “ask and you shall receive” is common knowledge. The law of attraction says “Ask, believe, receive.” Abrahams secret teachings say how all things that are wanted or unwanted are brought to you by the law of attraction. A belief is only a thought that you keep thinking. Never before has the law of attraction been explained as clearly as it is here by Abraham through Esther and Jerry Hicks.

Let us examine the basics of the law of attraction. Once a vibration is activated by you, a response is given via the law of attraction. If you ask, you receive. According to the law of attraction, everything is valid and truthful. In the germination of the seed of your desire is everything that is necessary to make your desire true. You must relax and let the law of attraction organize and manage and then happily do your work.

The secret law of attraction that has now been revealed is a universal law. Universal laws cannot be changed or broken. They have been around since the dawn of creation. They apply to everything, everywhere. They are basic principles on which life is based.

The law of attraction, revealed by Abraham-Hicks is the most powerful force in the universe. Practice is needed to “get it” but once you get it you need never look back. The secret of the law of attraction is &ndash like attracts like. This means many things. You are a living magnet. Energy attracts energy. You get what you focus on whether you want it or not.

Though some people are better at attraction than others are, this does not mean the person with average law of attraction skills cannot get better of even surpass others. In working the secret law of attraction, always take inspired action. If something feels right, go ahead and do it. Always expect your desires to come true. Expect miracles to happen.

Money, relationships and jobs happen in our life according to our expectations. The moment we focus on them, they start moving toward us. The quality of desires we focus on affects what we get from life. Our thoughts and feelings must affirm the positive to bring in happiness into our lives.

Think you have as much money you want in your life. Then feel it. Also, believe it. Believe that you already have as much money as you want in your life. Be grateful for the money you have. Accept yourself as a rich person.

Do the same with relationships and with jobs. Think, believe, feel and accept yourself in a positive position on these and the positivity will come to you. This is the secret that has been revealed by Abraham-Hicks in the law of attraction

What we focus on is brought to us. If it is on having less, we create that experience for ourselves. If it is on having more we bring richness into our lives. The man who says he hates his job is creating this reality for himself by not noticing the good parts of his job. If we obsess on not having something, then we are blocking what we deserve from coming to us. The secret is wanting, believing and accepting what you desire in your life.

Most people focus on their not having things they want rather than having them. This is a negative thought process and blocks what we want from coming into out lives. Once a secret, it is now known that the law of attraction is not mystical mumbo jumbo but a fact that has been borne out in countless lives. Expect positivity and receive positivity. So think, feel and believe positive.

That is the law of attraction in a nutshell.