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What is the law of attraction? You may have seen “The Secret” or “What The Bleep Do We Know?” and have gotten an idea of what the law of attraction is all about. You may have even created a vision board, done affirmations, and focused on the things that you want.

If you’re like most people, you may have wanted to harness the law of attraction to boost your financial level, increase health and energy, or experience better personal relationships in your life. When “The Secret” first came out, a lot of people follow the guidelines it spoke of. For a while, they were real champions at it, but then they just quit. They got discouraged.

Why? Because the law of attraction is more than just focusing on what it is you want and then expecting results in a few weeks or a few months. The law of attraction works with all of your levels, past your conscious thoughts and feelings. In fact, the law of attraction goes more by your inner feelings than what you consciously are thinking.

In the rush to use the law of attraction for their own purposes, many people have missed the overall picture of harnessing the law of attraction. It’s about becoming whole within yourself.

Let me explain more about this. You see, most people are thinking they want this or that on a conscious level, while deep down inside, on the unconscious level, they may want something totally different. So they are focusing on what they consciously want, and never letting themselves know what’s deep down inside. In order for you to get to the deep inside, you’ve got to become still and clear your head. This requires practice, as you may not be used to becoming completely still in mind and body. But regular practice will make things easier for you.

When you’ve working with all of your inner and outer levels of yourself, then you’re able to harness the law of attraction to bring you all of the good things you know you deserve. It goes beyond just mere thoughts, but feelings. How does it feel to have perfect health? How does it feel to have more than enough material abundance? Are you able to feel this right now? It may be hard for you, because your logical mind is telling you that your current situation does not reflect this idea. Remember, life is full of changes, so you cannot base yourself on the externals.

As you begin to play with the feeling of already having whatever it is that you want, you will find that it gets easier and easier to already feel abundance, health and love. And as that increases within you, so your outer world will start to reflect that as well. This is the essence of the law of attraction. Some things may come easier to you than others. Enjoy the process, and enjoy the feeling. How you feel is everything when it comes to the law of attraction.

A few practical tips worth revisiting are:

** Be prepared and know exactly what it is you want from this meeting;

** Thoroughly research the company you’re going to be dealing with;

** Choose an outfit appropriate for the meeting &ndash if unsure ask your friends (asking your mother may cause greater anxiety than you first started with);

** Know exactly where and when the meeting will be and who will be there;

** Meditate before you leave for your meeting &ndash it’s important to be in a centred and calm frame of mind; and

** Arrive with plenty of time to spare.

Something which has helped me be prepared for just about anything is practising an imaginery meeting and watching myself interacting with others starting from the moment when I arrive at the Reception counter. I run through this imaginery meeting until the end when I say my farewell. By doing this, not only do I become familiar with the meeting, it also gives me greater confidence and self awareness as well as produce a successful result.

If you’ve never considered rehearsing before the following exercise may be worthy of consideration.

You can start this step by step process by first:

** Writing down at least 10 possible questions that may be asked of you. Answer each question in detail, adding any variations that come to mind.

Putting aside for now the end result , practice using your five senses (hear, taste, see, smell, feel) and your mind’s eye to imagine in full detail how this meeting will unfold, starting from the very beginning to the end. Imagine and experience this meeting fully in the present tense, in other words, be there now.

Experience and imagine:

** How relaxed and confident you are;

** What you’re wearing;

** Your arrival at the nominated venue, and how you are greeted at the Reception counter;

** What you will be taking with you into the meeting (clipboard, briefcase etc);

** The venue setting;

** Greeting the other person, the tone of your voice and theirs (imagine how strong and confident it is);

** Sitting in your seat;

** Where the other person is sitting, their posture and facial expression;

** How you sit and they sit; how you hold your body, where you place your bag, briefcase or other item;

** Notice your facial features and theirs;

** Notice also the rapport between you, notice any smiling and hear the sound of laughter;

** See and hear yourself responding to their questions in full detail;

** The smell of the room, perfume, street smells, and the taste in your mouth; and

** Anything else you notice or would like to add.

** At the close of the meeting observe your farewell, what you say, how you say it, your facial features and body movements.

Rerun the meeting differently several times and include different verbal exchanges, further tweak what needs tweaking. It’s not about perfecting one scene over and over, it’s about providing a combination of possibilities that will help you be even more prepared.

For example, visualise the other person looking perplexed by what you’re saying, communicate differently and notice what happens. See and hear this exchange in full detail. Rerun as often as you need to until you get the result you want.

For added measure, you could also rehearse your meeting by placing two chairs at a table for yourself and the other person. Sit down in one of the chairs and imagine you’re speaking to the person sitting opposite. Become aware of how you sit, your breathing rate, clarity of voice and rapport.

When you’ve finished speaking, move into second position (the other seat) and communicate what you believe that person will say, how they’ll respond, what you anticipate their body movements to be and volume, speed and tone of voice.

As a final practice technique dress for success and speak to your reflection in a mirror. Practice various verbal exchanges with the other person. Watch and notice your facial expressions, body movements including breathing rate as well as using different postures, expressions and questions and answers. Have fun and tweak what needs tweaking…

With some practical self coaching and mental rehearsal life can become that much more easier, comfortable and provide greater confidence, awareness and more successful results.

Michaela Scherr Transformational Coach and Intuitive

Compulsive lying is a problem that is sure to cause major problems in someone’s life. Lies are a bit of trouble that seems to multiply once they start. Compulsive liars have to continue their ways to keep up with the last lie, which kept up with the last lie. It is a cycle of deception that can alienate family members and friends. It can also cause problems at your workplace if you take compulsive lying to work in the morning. That’s the problem with the condition. You can’t just turn it on and off. Compulsive liars will lie about strange issues and they don’t have a problem making up things just to support their previous falsehoods.

Do you feel like you have no control over your lying problem? Do you feel like you are telling lies without even thinking about it? Has lying become something that is very easy to do? These are all signs that you have a problem with compulsive lying. Though all people have told a lie or two, it is the compulsive liars who continue to spread their lies just for the sake of making themselves look better or to cover up a problem that they may be experiencing. If not addressed at the most basic level, compulsive lying is a problem that can leave people without friends or a job. People simply don’t want to be around people who lie all the time. All good relationships are built out of trust.

In order to get rid of compulsive lying, one needs to address the issue at its very core. A change in the behavior requires a change in one’s thinking. You will have to purge yourself of the desire to lie in order to really get over the hump. Being a hypnotherapist, I have helped many clients get over compulsive lying using hypnosis. The practice of hypnotherapy is not just something in the movies. It’s a living solution to your problem with compulsive lying.

If you can’t control the things that you say, it is probably time to seek out some help for your problem. Do yourself a favor and gather information about how hypnosis can help you with a compulsive lying problem. Hypnosis helps for all sorts of mental blocks, including smoking, stress, and other addictions. It can also help solve the terrible problem of compulsive lying. Compulsive lying doesn’t make you a bad person, but a pattern of falsehoods can negatively effect your reputation to a point past repair.

Ever wonder why some people do not find it hard to feel confident? If you must know, confidence is basically a state of mind. Before you feel confident, you think about being confident. Surprisingly, you can easily learn about being confident. For starters, you should stop trying to become someone you are not. To be confident, you must be comfortable with who you are and accept your limitations. By doing this, you can act naturally and you will not have to worry about pretending.

Being confident is a lot of hard work. No one is born with it and it takes a serious amount of commitment and dedication to become confident. Being confident can improve your work ad personal life. You will be able to make presentations to large groups of people and speak with important clients. On the other hand, it would require a certain level of confidence to introduce yourself to a stranger or ask someone on a date.

Another important factor in confidence is determining your strengths, skills and talents. If you know these, you can trust yourself to accomplish your tasks properly. Funnily enough, there are people who have all the skills in the world but fail to use them because they are overcome by anxiety or nervousness.

If you are one of these people who have problems with confidence, the first thing you should do is to learn to manage this anxiety. You can try a few self-help techniques such as deep breathings, stretching or meditating. These would slower your heartbeat and help you focus on more important things. Meditation is an effective way to relax your mind as well as your body, ridding yourself of negative thoughts and feelings.

If these are not effective, then you might have a more serious problem that would require professional help. Psychotherapy can help build your confidence by determining and managing the reasons for your anxiety and fear. You could be suffering from low self-esteem because of things that you have experienced before. It is also possible that your anxiety comes from expecting too much from yourself. Whatever the reasons are, psychotherapy can help.

Another fast and effective way to treat anxiety is through hypnotherapy. It usually involves being hypnotized and the hypnotist will alter your behavior by making suggestions to your subconscious. It is believed that the subconscious is more receptive to changes than your conscious mind.

1. Embarrassment

It’s almost impossible to avoid flushing or blushing when we feel embarrassed. Either when we least expect it or even worse when we do expect it. When you next feel embarrassment try to remember that your face turning red is 99.9% common and the only discomfort you will feel is the embarrassment itself and not the so called shame of a red face.

2. Exercise

How many people do you know who don’t turn a different shade of pink from a vigorous work out? Whether it’s running for 20 mins on a piece of gym equipment or making love - we all go red and suffer a flushing face during exertion.

3. Anxiety and Phobias

The triggers that cause anxiety or phobic reactions make us feel uncomfortable and stressed out. These feelings can cause an increase in blood flow and pressure which ultimately results in the reddening of the face. If you can relate to this then the only plausible solution is to tackle the underling psychological issues that cause such physical reactions.

4. The fear of blushing

Following on from point 3, the physical reactions from psychological triggers such as anxiety, phobias or stress can often self manifest. This means that the mere fact that you become self conscious about your flushing then becomes a problem in itself. No longer are you flushing because of the original cause, but you are now experiencing a “second tier” of flushing due to the fact that you are anxious about the fact that you are flushing in the first place.

5. Frustration

Frustration is the distant relative of stress. As we know, stress can cause high blood pressure and as such, frustration can and often does cause flushing. Even classic cartoon characters are given facial redness expressions to portray frustration.

6. Sadness

Often sadness and in its extremity, crying, can cause a higher volume of blood to rush to the face.

7. Happiness and laughter

Many people, when engaged in uncontrollable laughter, are prone to flushing of the face. The harder we laugh the less in control we become and more importantly the less self aware we become. We let ourselves go and as laughter requires a great deal of physical and energetic resource, we tend to flush as a result.

8. Menopause

One of the most common triggers of a flushing face is most certainly a flushing face. Many women suffer intensely from flushing and hot flashes. There are many products and suggested solutions for menopause and the treatments for flushing are just a part of the market.

9. Hot n’ spicy foods (and drink)

Although some people don’t seem to flinch at a mouthful of chicken madras, the rest of us have to endure wild and fierce attacks of facial flushing at the first sign of eastern European cuisine. It can become annoying to say the least. For some of you reading, it can be the difference between going out and socializing and staying in with a mild Italian dish instead. It shouldn’t be that way now should it?

As you can see, there are many causes of a flushing face. For some people, all of the points can seem familiar and for others, it may just be one of these points that cause you problems. Further more, for some of you; there may be something more specific that causes face flushing. Whatever it is, there is always a solution.

The deciding factor is - can you determine what it is and ultimately are you willing to do something right now to change your situation for the better? I did, you can too.

Hair loss is usually a traumatic experience for someone who values a full head of hair. A number of different psychology elements are at play here. These range from coping with a noticeable change in appearance, dealing with the aging process, and handling self image issues due to the loss of hair.

Loss of hair can be caused by many different factors. Even though it is a studied field of human biology, scientists still do not have all the answers for hair loss and they do not have the means to successfully prevent it.

Every person loses hair every single day of their lives.

This is not a big deal for most people because the hairs that fall out are replaced by new hair growth.

People who do not experience this new hair growth need hair loss help.

The first bit of hair loss help is the good news that sometimes hairs do grow back. This is true for people who experience a medical or a chemical suppressant of hair growth. People who have certain illnesses and people who undergo chemotherapy often grow their hair back when these conditions or treatments are terminated.

The next bit of hair loss help is the good news that there are remedies available for people who do not experience natural hair regrowth.

Falling under the cosmetic category, one finds many hair loss drugs on the chemical side of the treatment spectrum, as well as herbs for hair loss on the natural or organic side of the hair loss treatment spectrum.

On the very serious side of hair loss help one can find complete hair transplants. With this type of treatment hair is implanted into the skin on the skull to cover up the bald spots.

People who have, without success, tried drugs or herbs for hair loss and do not want the hair transplant option often resort to two different solutions to cover their baldness.

The first method many people use is called the “comb over”. This is a remedy where the remaining hair is left to grow long enough so that it can be combed over the bald area to cover it.

The second method is wearing a wig or a toupee. A wig with naturally looking hair can be a very expensive item with prices into the thousands of dollars.

To some people, hair and hairstyle form an essential element of what they define as their beauty or their attractiveness. Hair loss changes their appearance and most people hate that. When hair loss visits you, you either have to consider one or more of the hair loss help items mentioned above, or you have to learn to love the new you.

Before getting a tattoo or a body piercing find out what all the risks are and how to get rid of the tattoo or body piercing if you no longer want it.

A tattoo may only take a few minutes to get but it can last a lifetime. Tattoos are permanent. They are designs put on your skiing with pigments injected into the top layer of your skin with needles.

Here is how tattoos are created: A needle is connected to an apparatus with tubes which contain dye. These needles pierce the skin multiple times kind of like a sewing machine but on your skin. The needle inserts tiny drops of ink creating the tattoo. Tattoos can hurt and a large tattoo can take up to several hours to create. The tattoo may even bleed

What are the downsides of getting a tattoo?

You are piercing your skin so you may be a risk for more skin infections if you get a tattoo or piercing.

If you get a tattoo you put yourself at risk for getting blood related diseases. If the machine the tattoo artist uses you can you can get hepatitis C, hepatitis B, tetanus, tuberculosis and even HIV.

If you use red ink in your tattoos you may get a rash with bumps.

Tattoos can also lead to bacterial infections. The symptoms are redness, warmth, swelling and pus.

Again if you use red ink in your tattoo this can cause allergic reactions that can last for years.

Your tattoo will also require cleaning and maintenance. Your tattoo artist will give you instructions on how to clean and maintain your tattoo. You should apply skin care products and avoid too much exposure to the sun for your tattoo. Especially in the beginning.

Tattoos takes several days to heal. Do not pick at the tattoo. Give the tattoo time to heal properly.

What if you want to get rid of your tattoo? This is very common.

Tattoo removal is difficult and often still leaves scars and skin discolorations.

Laser surgery if the best way to get rid of a tattoo. Laser beams penetrate the top layer of the skin and the light is accepted by the tattoo. This method may demand up to 10 treatments over a period of a year and even then the tattoo might not completely disappear.

Another method of tattoo removal is called Dermabrasion. The tattoo is frozen until the skin is numb then the skin is sanded down. This method does not hurt very much but it usually leaves a scar.

You can also remove that tattoo surgically but this invariably leaves a scar.

If your child is exhibiting AD/HD (attention deficit/hyperactivity disorder) symptoms, should you rush to the doctor for a final diagnosis? Well, it’s hard to say. It really depends on the severity of the symptoms and their duration. If something happened yesterday that never happened before, you’re worrying for nothing. If it’s something that you’ve seen in your child’s behavior over a period of six months or more, then put your fears to rest. Find out if your child has AD/HD and learn to deal with it.

But who can give you that diagnosis? If you have never dealt with ADD or ADHD before, you probably don’t know that you can count on a variety of sources. Online resources may be helpful, as will pediatricians, family doctors, teachers and school officials, but the most helpful references you may receive will come from parents of children who have already been diagnosed. Recommendations may be for pediatricians, psychologists, neurologists or psychiatrists, too.

So, what makes one resource better than another? To help you determine, here are the differences among the available resources:

Pediatricians complete four years of medical school, an internship, and a residency in their specialty. They can diagnose illnesses and they watch how your child grows. They can diagnose AD/HD, but their practices are mainly quick visits, not long evaluations. If they suspect AD/HD, they will probably send you on for further evaluation.

Developmental pediatricians specialize in watching a child’s growth in many areas–physical, social, and mental, and they will make a full analysis of your child for AD/HD. When they discover that this is the cause of a developmental issue, they will treat the development issue. When they find other problems associated with juvenile AD/HD, they will probably form a team of specialists to address everything else.

Child psychiatrists have medical degrees and specialize in childhood mental abnormalities. Though they diagnose AD/HD, they rarely provide counseling. Think of them like the pediatrician of the mind. They will diagnose and prescribe, and they will monitor the prescription’s affect on your child’s particular brand of AD/HD, but they will offer little help with behavioral issues in the classroom, for instance.

Pediatric neurologists diagnose and treat central nervous system disorders in children. They usually don’t treat kids with AD/HD, unless they exhibit a tic or a syndrome, like Tourette’s, if it’s associated with the child’s AD/HD.

Clinical psychologists aren’t medical doctors. They’re PhDs and they will provide diagnosis and treatment of AD/HD. They want to discover what the underlying causes of AD/HD might be in the child, and address them. The whole family may be part of the affected child’s treatment. Though they don’t issue medications,

they will recommend it to your family physician or pediatrician, when they feel it’s needed.

Pediatric neuropsychologists are also PhDs, but with a post-doctoral specialty in training. They can evaluate your child for AD/HD, and are helpful in determining a child’s specific strengths and weaknesses through the study of their brain function. Though they do not offer treatment, they will prepare suggestions for you and your child’s teachers on how to approach your child’s particular brand of AD/HD.

Educational psychologists have either a master’s degree or a PhD in education, and specialize in learning disabilities. Though they can diagnose AD/HD, their only assistance be in designing your AD/HD child’s specialized education. In conjunction with recommendations made by a pediatric neuropsychologist, this can be very powerful.

Though any of these professionals can diagnose your child, not all of them will be right for him or her with regard to ADD or ADHD. Choose the right person for you, and if you’re comfortable and your child is comfortable with their help and advice, then you’re on the right track. But don’t hesitate. Don’t let your child go through 2 or 3 grades before coming to a diagnosis. That only leads to more stress for everyone. Allow a professional to tell you whether or not your child has ADD or ADHD when you or a teacher suspects it. When the diagnosis comes, explain to them that they are special, and work on finding areas where their quick, intelligent, and creative brains can flourish. If you do this early, your child will have greater self-esteem, and lead a happier, more productive life.

They say that time is much more important than wealth. Most effective people think so. They know how to get more time in a day, and they have mastered the art of utilizing time effectively to do more productive things that contribute to their advancement or success. So how do they do it?

Proven Technique Number 1 - They delegate and assign simple routinary tasks to other people so that they can have more free time to do as they please.

This is very elementary but of great significance. If you have the money, hire people to do the housework, the repairing, and even some of your office jobs. Let others do the research. But of course, you have to reward them accordingly so they will get motivated to render their services again.

You can then focus on the more important things in life, like planning and managing your activities.

Proven Technique Number 2 - They plan seriously.

The less time you think you have, the more critical it is for you to plan. By planning carefully, you’ll be able to manage your time better and avoid costly mistakes that eat up much more of your time.

You might say that you’re so busy you don’t even have time to plan. Maybe you can insert some time planning while doing your other activities. The planning phase is very important in organizing your thoughts to carry out the desired effects.

You might say that this is boring stuff, but you should never underestimate this process. This is like a guideline to steer you into the right direction.

Your plan will be your road map. Spend enough time to ponder through the different approaches and activities, and you will soon realize that you can save a lot more time by doing this.

It will be best if you can choose a quiet place to make your plan.

Your mind can focus and think more clearly this way.

Every individual has his unique perception of a well-made plan. There are no specific rules in making it. But in case you’re in a tight situation, let me give you some tips.

1. Write down your objective. This is a precise definition of your target.

2. Brainstorm the strategies & tactics you will employ to accomplish your objective.

3. Assess the advantages & disadvantages of carrying out those strategies & choose those tactics where the pros outweigh the cons.

4. Set a timeline or deadline in completing your mission.

5. Make modifications & back-up plans in case Plan A doesn’t work.

6. As your plan evolves, you will gain experience. Learn from your mistakes.

Most important of all, don’t delay. Start applying what you have learned today, and have lots of great time!

Your restaurant seats are highly important in dealing with accommodations for your restaurant. There could be a lot of people who would want to make reservations especially during Friday or Saturday nights but you have to make sure that you decide wisely on this.

Before deciding if you’re going to accept reservations of a big group for a Friday or Saturday night business, try to check your records first of the history of reservations you usually receive. If you don’t keep a record of this, make sure you do starting now.

The point here is that, you need to find out how much percentage each person from a large group can contribute to your bottom line during these times (especially that your restaurant can get full-packed) then, compare them to the smaller groups of reservation you receive during the same time. By doing this, you’d get a concrete estimation of how big your chances are going to be in earning more if you accept groups of 2 or 4 persons through walk-ins or reservations. If this is the case, you can now turn down the reservation for the larger group.

Don’t think just because a large group of diners who want to have reservation for your restaurant could already mean good profit. Make sure that you conduct a study of these matters before you make your final verdict. After all, what you’re trying to do is for the overall benefit for your income.

The opposite thing may happen as well. You could be expecting that a large group makes a reservation on a Friday or Saturday night and yet you get reservations for 2 or 4 persons. All you have to do is to take chances. You can never be too sure of what could happen on a night like this but if you continue to keep your restaurant records, you’ll realize that it would be okay not to rearrange your seating arrangement and yet, earn extra by utilizing what you already have in your restaurant.